Woman says secret sex recording by former Stampeder left her shattered

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The act of former Calgary Stampeder Jerome Messam secretly recording their sexual tryst will influence his sufferer ceaselessly, she advised a metropolis courtroom Friday.

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The girl, who can’t be recognized, gave a prolonged sufferer influence assertion on how her life has been shattered by the one-time all-star working again’s felony behaviour.

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“The long-term results of what Mr. Messam did are a everlasting fixture on my life,” the girl advised a Calgary Courtroom of King’s Bench listening to.

Regardless of being anticipated to indicate up in individual for his sentencing, Messam, 37, was permitted to view the proceedings remotely from Ontario.

And after Crown prosecutor Janice Walsh raised issues by the sufferer that Messam would have the ability to tune out her phrases, Justice April Grosse admonished him to concentrate.

“It definitely is my expectation Mr. Messam that you’ll take heed to this,” Grosse stated, earlier than the girl took to the courtroom podium.

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“Sure ma’am,” Messam replied.

Messam pleaded responsible in January to voyeurism for video recording a Nov. 11, 2016, consensual sexual tryst he had with the girl in his Calgary house.

The sufferer advised Grosse she just isn’t the individual she was earlier than Messam violated her sexual integrity by making a recording of their sexual encounter.

“So when individuals inform me that I don’t seem to be myself anymore, in fact I don’t. The individual they’re referring to didn’t have any cause to stay in worry, to be offended on a regular basis, to really feel like she has no autonomy,” she stated.

“Who I’m now can’t relate to the carefree individual I used to be earlier than this occurred.”

Usually choking again her feelings, the girl stated she needed to depart Calgary with a purpose to try and put the incident behind her after struggling by her ultimate semester of post-secondary training.

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However she stated she hasn’t been in a position to take the time to get well from the emotional trauma Messam inflicted on her.

“Time stops for nobody and I don’t have the posh of taking time away from all of my obligations,” she stated.

“I’m a shell of myself.”

On the time of Messam’s responsible plea, Crown prosecutor Janice Walsh learn in a press release of agreed info detailing his crime.

Based on the agreed info, Messam despatched the girl “4 sexually specific video clips” by way of Snapchat, a message service that deletes texts in 10 seconds.

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“Accompanying the video clips was a sexually specific message from the accused,” the prosecutor stated.

“Every of the sexually specific video clips lasted 10 seconds and have been completely deleted as soon as it had completed taking part in. Recognizing the impermanence of the video clips, (the sufferer) used one other digital machine to report one of many sexually specific video clips earlier than it completely deleted,” Walsh stated.

Based on the agreed info, Messam by no means shared the clips with anybody else and has deleted them.

In sentencing submissions, Walsh stated whereas she wasn’t in search of a jail time period, the conditional discharge being sought by defence lawyer Daniel Nguyen, which might spare Messam a felony report, was inappropriate.

She stated Messam’s conduct violated the sufferer’s bodily integrity.

“Mr. Messam … determined to take one thing from the sufferer, one thing that can not be absolutely changed,” she stated.

The listening to is predicted to proceed on Nov. 10.

KMartin@postmedia.com

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